FLETC romances?

[spb10059]

Anyone have any good/bad FLETC romance stories to share?
I met my wife there nearly 10 years ago.

[kennethm3]

I met my wife there three years ago, the best thing that ever happened to me.

[KRALEY]

I have heard some rumors that a lot of inter-marital affairs occur at FLETC. True?

[spb10059]

I have been there 6 times, and it is absolutely true

[bpawatts]

For you single guys and gals meeting good people with a solid integrity, good going. Don't forget about the high mobility in the G. Consider this...Not to bag on Brunswick, but the HIV/AIDS numbers in the local area not good. I don't want to preach to any grown adults. Just be careful. You married folks need to ask yourselves, if your spouse would be doing the same, is it OK in your eyes??? The home support needs flow back home for the loved ones there. I hate to sound preachy but, 4-5 months is not that long.

[PittAJ]

I can see it now in the papers "Federal Law Enforcement Training Center a Haven for Sex" haha

[bpawatts]

PettAJ,

Like I said, I did not want to preach to any adults. So I guess my post was sent to you. Your headlines were not funny.

[CID 162]

Not to get sidetracked, but the HIV/AIDS rates are high in Brunswick?? As compared to what? NYC, LA, Chicago?

Just curious because I live 5 miles from the FLETC gates.

Ted

[PittAJ]

bpa, sorry I guess Border Patrol Agents dont have any sense of humor. And its PittAJ not PettAJ

[Jason22]

I visited and went out there, I can tell you first hand that there is one problem you shouldn't have, that is hooking up. "Level 3" not the greatest place to find a girl but many of them there are willing. I had a friend using my hotel room since FLETC doesn't let overnight guests back. To anyone going there, there is alot of fun to be had. Enjoy, maybe I'll get my chance to head back down there soon as well.

JAY

[bpawatts]

Ok Pett,....now that was funny!
I can laugh with the best of them...when they're funny.

CID,
I guess that was a bit general on my part. But check out this site. Sorry I can't put a link.

http://www.cdc.gov/hiv/graphics/images/l264/l264-9.htm

[JimSpoor]

I didn't meet my my wife at FLETC but I think I met several other wives.

[robjorg]

Gonzo-
Thank you for interjecting an appropriate amount of sensability and maturity. That's all I have to say.

[ATF SAC]

Ok, it's like a graduate school with better physical fitness and I am happy for those who fell in love and started great marriages.

That said, here's the deal. While not eternally on the clock, you are mostly on the clock in a Federal facility. Good to focus on what you are being paid to do there and to learn to operate as a mature adult in a diverse environment.

All the consequences of affairs attend those at law enforcement training centers with some extra ones, especialy if the relationship creates a problem by ending poorly. Least of the worries may be STD, since most folks there have had thorough recent physicals. Almost no one there is off probation with their agency. Take a harrassment beef, you are cooked. Get beefed on almost anything you are cooked. Hell, in some cases, we can cook you for being sloppy.

Fall in love and its on your dime for the cross country relationship. Even true love and marriage, in those circumstances, doesn't obligate the agencies of the United States or even one of them to solve the problem of the three time zone marriage. Indeed as a previous poster said, not all of them will synchronize your personal life with their professional requirements of you. Again, even within one agency, choices are going to be made because I don't know any that allow spouses to serve in the same office or to be the subordinate of another.

I am no enemy of true love, not even as a SAC and I know folks who met their spouse somewhere on the job who are doing fine. But I know more on the job Lolitas or Lotharios who have dumped their career and several marriages than those who got by with the career somewhat. After all a social jerk is just a jerk who shows it in immature social relationships.

That said, somebody has got to screw up just so we can dump them and prove we mean it from time to time. Most of the husbands and wives who go to a Federal training center, miss their spouse, honor their vows and their oath, and are glad to get out of there. More than most. A few don't, just like anywhere and don't assume because they seem to have gotten away with it at the academy that the after shocks didn't come after graduation and do them in.

Plus, as a previous poster stated more nicely , nobody is newsier, snoopier or more gossipy than a cop. Not everything you do as a rook may make it in your OPF, but your reputation will make it back to the bosses and as a probationer, life is better with a good one. Remember all those non-students there who are agency professionals mentoring and evaluating and passing on the rap to their buds back at the ranch. 'Nough said.

[robjorg]

For what it's worth, having just been through a physcial for an 1811 slot (and I have a very extensive background in healthcare/clinical medicine) there is nothing done in the physical (at least the one I went through) to detect an STD. Just something to think about in ANY social situation.

[dutch2399]

While I was at FLETC we had a couple of people in our class who had a little FLETC romance. I think they thought it would all go away when they left. Sure enough the were assigned to the same office and the same group. They often have to work together on surveillences. Alot of people lost a lot of repect for both of them which definately has an effect on their job.

I guess the moral of the story is to be very, very, very, carefull what you do at FLETC because it will follow you forever.

[deaspy]

If you know what's good for you, I would not even think about it while at FLETC. I hear stories here at HQ about people that may have happened years ago. My point, it never goes away, ever. The sad thing is that while the guys are generally expected to be dogs, the women are either classed as slxts or labeled lesbo's either way they loose....

Original question, my friend was attending for Customs Inspector training, met and married Sally (Sally's Cop Shop).

Just a little word of advise from someone who see's the carreers that will never get anywhere for STUPID reasons......

take care,
JH

[garyb199]

SAC, you are so right. I love reading your posts. They are always filled with knowledge and understanding. May your wisdom continue in your postings. garyb199

[IL Lawman]

...it happens at the state-run resident academies as well. One of my room-mates was chasing a gal from the local town, until he was stopped dead in his tracks by a local copper who was also sharing the same gal. My roomie found out the hard way when he went to her house & was answered at the door by a male pointing a .357 magnum at him. Thus ended the romance.
On the other hand, I met the love of my life when I was at the academy. We dated for 6 months, then she broke it off right before she graduated,
coincidentally on the night I proposed. [sigh]
Life goes on....

[papimike]

JUST MY TWO CENTS-- ONE TWO WEEK COURSE DOWN THERE , I SAW A COUPLE OF GUYS WHO CONTRACTED "THE CLAP" .. I SAW SOME FELLAS HOOK UP AT THAT NUDIE BAR IN TOWN... --THE SAME GUYS WHO GOT THE CLAP.

I SAW AN AGENT IN TRAINING WHO CONTINUOUSLY FLASHED HER BREASTS IN THE OUTDOOR POOL, MULTIPLE TIMES/EVERY TIME SHE WAS IN THE POOL --SHE WOULD SAY , "OOPS. I GUESS MY TOP IS TOO SMALL"--EACH AND EVERY TIME.


...I COULD GO ON.... I LOVED IT. -- MY SINGLE DAYS

[DC LD]

Please don't think any less of me but, I am realy enjoying this thread. Yes we are all adults and this is a professional forum but damn this is some good stuff.

I want to know what our professional limits are(moderators feel free to answer)? How much can we talk about? If it is OK then please let's hear some more. If not, then keep that juvenile stuff to your self(or PM me)!