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cbpjfk1117
03-04-2005, 17:08
Well, here's a forum I never expected to be in....
My wife just got the dreaded diagnosis, type 2 ductal breast cancer.
It is in its very early stages, so hopfully very treatable. We just lost her mom to the same thing ( although Mom never treated hers for years) 3 1/2 years ago.
I am in shock, and worried. I know that I need to be her rock through this , I an wondering if anyone here has gone thru this?
Charlie
Charlie, I've never been through anything like this but I can only imagine how scary it is for you both. I will certianly keep you and your wife in my thoughts and prayers........
lauderdalehawk4
03-04-2005, 23:03
cbpjfk1117 I'm sorry to hear about your wife.
I lost my uncle to a very rare cancer a few years ago. Best advice I would give is use the internet, get on and search like crazy find as much info as you can that way you get all the facts and you will be able to ask the doctors anything you are curious about. Also you might find another forum that is specific for breast cancer that might have doctors or other people in your same position that can let you know what to expect and things like that. Good luck to you and your wife you'll be in my thoughts and prayers.
Frank_Pembleton
03-06-2005, 09:18
cbpjfk,
I'm sorry to hear about you wifes diagnosis. I see you are from NY, which has the best Cancer treatment hospital in the US (Sloan-Kettering). My father had stomach cancer 3 years ago and they saved his life at that hospital.
I'll keep you and your family in my prayers.
Chaser199
03-09-2005, 13:16
Charlie,
First I want to join the other posters in saying that my prayers are with you and your wife.
Last year, my father-in-law had a cancer that was discovered early and it was successfully treated with chemo. My wife and I also had to be rocks throughout the whole thing or my father-in-law would have panicked and caused himself more harm (he was 85 years old at the time).
Like you, I live on Long Island. As Frank Pembleton said, we have some great hospitals here in NY. Even North Shore or Long Island Jewish are excellent.
My father-in-law had good, early treatment and he came through it fine. Your wife will too.
Storm_Runner
03-09-2005, 13:55
Well, here's a forum I never expected to be in....
My wife just got the dreaded diagnosis, type 2 ductal breast cancer.
It is in its very early stages, so hopfully very treatable. We just lost her mom to the same thing ( although Mom never treated hers for years) 3 1/2 years ago.
I am in shock, and worried. I know that I need to be her rock through this , I an wondering if anyone here has gone thru this?
Charlie
I'll keep your family in my prayers...at least State II is early still...very rare is Cancer ever detected in stage I so this is good....just start building a support network. I went through some cancer with a friend and the best thing is that he had a network of folks who could help and that was helpful especially with a daily trip for treatment for 2 months....reach out and use all your resources....
-SR
Our prayers are with you and your family...
cbp - you and your wife are in my thoughts and prayers.
I know first hand what it's like to be the supportive one in these situations. My wife has lost 3 immediate relatives in the past 2 years to prostate, throat, and lung cancers, and she has dodged the breast cancer bullet twice. She had a lump removed that her doctor called "pre-cancerous". I've never heard of that, but if the word cancer is there, I don't think it can be good. That same lump came back exactly one year later in the same spot and was removed again. Same thing - "pre-cancerous". It scared the hell out of both of us because it looks like this might be a recurring thing in her bloodline.
All I can tell you is to be your wife's "rock", but don't forget to show her your emotions. You don't want her thinking that you aren't phased by this, but you obviously need to be the main support system here. Keep the lines of communication wide open between you both, cry on each other's shoulders, and fight this nasty disease like hell and never give up. If you need to vent or to get some advice, you know you'll find lots of support here. Good luck to you both and stay strong.
Charlie,
I lost my mother 2 1/2 years ago, so I can relate to what you're going through. Here are some links that might help to get you started on the research.
http://www.komen.org/
http://www.breastcancerinfo.org
There are some great treatments out there. We just didn't get to them in time. Good luck and I'll keep you and your wife in my thoughts.
Still in my prayers Charlie - all of our prayers ...
kingpervis
03-11-2005, 02:10
God bless your family in this difficult time. Never hesitate to confide in friends and family so that the stress doesn't eat you up inside.
All our prayers are with your family.
cbpjfk1117
04-11-2005, 19:06
Well just a bizzare update....
First I want to thank everyone for their thoughts and support thru this difficult time.
My wife ended up having a lumpectomy about 3 wks ago , ths surgury was uneventful but unfortunatly the margins of the excised tissue showed more cancer than originally thought.
My wifes doctor gave her the option of having another possibbly unsucessful lumpectomy or have a double mastectomy in order to lower her risks ( she has a long family history).
Well we are scheduled to go to a class this Wed. on mastectomys and then were scheduled to meet with her doctor to schedule either surgury.
Here's the kicker..... At 10:00 am on 4-11-05 Dr. Jennie Petrek was struck and killed by a ambulette near her midtown Ny office! Here is a link to the story Breast cancer surgeon killed (http://www.wnbc.com/traffic/4369154/detail.html)
"Breast Cancer Surgeon Fatally Struck By Ambulette
POSTED: 7:44 pm EDT April 11, 2005
UPDATED: 7:49 pm EDT April 11, 2005
NEW YORK A.P. WIRE-- Prominent cancer surgeon Dr. Jeanne Petrek died on Monday in a tragic accident when she was struck by an ambulette near her midtown Manhattan office.
New York City Police said Petrek, a breast cancer surgeon and Director of the Surgical Program at New York's Memorial Sloan-Kettering Cancer Center, was struck by the ambulette as she was crossing East 64th Street and Second Avenue at the crosswalk on Monday.
The ambulette was making a left turn from Second Avenue onto East 64th Street when it struck the 57-year-old Petrek, who lived in Bronxville. She was taken to nearby Cornell Medical Center, where she later died.
Police said it appears to have been an accident. A summons was issued to the ambulette driver for failure to yield to a pedestrian in a crosswalk."
This was just about the nicest, caring doctor we have ever met, she genunuly cared about her paitents and there familys.
What else can happen?
Charlie
UncleSugar
04-12-2005, 01:09
I'll be praying for you all - your wife, you, the doc and her family.
Charlie,
We have recently gone through the same experience. My wife was diagnosed with breast cancer. The lumpectomy was unsuccessful and resulted in a double masectomy.
After 18 chemo treatments, 38 radiation treatments and tamoxifen tablets for the next 5 years, she is doing well. I understand what a shock it is to the family. Understand that of course you are scared, shocked and confused. Just remember, your wife is also scared and probably much more than she will tell you. Just remember to communicate with her, be there for her if for no other reason than a shoulder to cry on. Sometimes there just are no words to tell her. If you would like, send me a private message and we can talk about what's to come.
My prayers are with your wife and you for a successful outcome.
DFrost
cbp - you and your wife are in my thoughts and prayers.
I know first hand what it's like to be the supportive one in these situations. My wife has lost 3 immediate relatives in the past 2 years to prostate, throat, and lung cancers, and she has dodged the breast cancer bullet twice. She had a lump removed that her doctor called "pre-cancerous". I've never heard of that, but if the word cancer is there, I don't think it can be good. That same lump came back exactly one year later in the same spot and was removed again. Same thing - "pre-cancerous". It scared the hell out of both of us because it looks like this might be a recurring thing in her bloodline.
All I can tell you is to be your wife's "rock", but don't forget to show her your emotions. You don't want her thinking that you aren't phased by this, but you obviously need to be the main support system here. Keep the lines of communication wide open between you both, cry on each other's shoulders, and fight this nasty disease like hell and never give up. If you need to vent or to get some advice, you know you'll find lots of support here. Good luck to you both and stay strong.
Amen, You and your wife are in my prayer's!
Thanks gbcop. Our experience pales in comparison to others, but anything like this is truly scary, though.
To you cbpjfk1117, you are still in my thoughts and prayers. I know this is a difficult time for both you and your wife, but don't ever give up. It's a hard fight, but worth it if she comes out on top. Learn as much as you can about your options and make the decision together. And most of all, good luck to your wife - we'd all love to hear some good news from you soon that she is doing better.
DFrost, my support goes out to you and your wife as well. Thanks for sharing your story, it's good to hear that after all the treatments that she's doing well.
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