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Had Words with a male classmate today, felt he was very disrespectful, and rude. Told him this, and the aurgument commenced. Frankly, I have put up with his mouth, and several others have also, for the last 15 weeks. Finally had enough! While I was not openly rude, I took him aside after PT, and just told him to grow up, and he needed to watch his mouth, thing is he is a class squad leader, and Me? I am a face in the crowd usually...This cauused him to go off on other people...
Wondered how many others had a situation like this? Am I wrong, should I have known better? I am 10 years older, and do not believe that you should not talk disrespectfully to others, in front of other people, which he did to me. Any opinions to resolve this would be greatly appreciated. He and I talked and just peacefully parted.
Sounds like you did the right thing to me. You may have even unknowingly nominated yourself as his replacement.
Samurai004
11-29-2001, 20:36
He needs to learn the idea that as leader you should try to, "praise in public and crititize in private". Just because he is a squad leader doesn't excuse him from common decency...he isn't your drill sgt. he is your peer and he needs to realize that.:rolleyes:
One of the best lessons in life (I think) is learning to "insult the action, not the person". Seems like the hard part will be teaching your classmate this lesson.
Blue Skies.
TANKMGA8
11-30-2001, 10:30
Let's see, there was a problem and you took action by pulling him aside and talking to him. He then decided that since he was a class squad leader he did not have to listen to you. Now as a result of your talk he went off on some other classmates. Sounds like a classic case of "since I hold the title, I am a leader, and you cannot tell me anything, because I am the leader and know it all".
He*% no you did not do anything wrong!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
You saw a problem and did what a real leader would do, sounds as if he realizes he is lacking in his leadership skills and doesn't want to admit it. You did the right thing, GOOD JOB. Your age has alot to do with your actions, he should be using your age and life experience to help him. Eventually he will learn, and maybe a couple of years down the line he will remember what you told him and then do the same thing for someone else. Of course he may not either.
As far as resolving it you have done your part. He needs to mature enough to learn to take criticism. If he doesn't, FTO will be very rough on him and he could also fail to get out of FTO if you know what I mean.
Sig 20, you've got balls and should be commended for your actions. There are those people that can not accept constructive criticism from others and hopefully they get washed out in the FTO program. I've learned from my academy that some classmates will do a lot of talking behind one's back but then kiss ass to that same person as if they're their best friend. One of our classmates was just fired due to some issues of laziness and attitude. He stated to me that he appreciated that I was the only one to confront him on these issues privately, beforehand, yet a bunch of other classmates stated to our Training Sergeant that they had confronted him when they did not. To sum it up, I've noticed that some future cops can be very very wimpy and sometimes it's rare to find those who tackle problems appropriately. I think many believe that silence is the key to good personal skills with co-workers. Maybe that's my downfall. Good luck
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