Significant Others of LEO's

[K9 Police]

Hey everyone,

My long time girlfriend wished to post something on the board. Here it is:

"Hi everybody! I was just wondering since I watch Chris post on the forum all the time, and I see how much he gains from posting, if there was a place or link that significant others of Officers can post? If not, are there significant others on this board that can write under this post as to their experiences dating/living/married to police officers. I did not know where to post this under (FAQ, Police, Hiring, etc). I think it would be informative and interesting to post with others who live this lifestyle. He is, hopefully, about to start his career and I would like to know information about the lifestyle. I am a daughter of a divorced cop, but I have never been the significant other of one. I just want to be able to relate to somebody like he does to everyone on this board. It is not everyday that I can talk to Officer's loved ones. Thank you in advance. --Kristin"

K9

[SecretNY]

Thanks for the post...
If you go to http://forums.delphiforums.com they have a bunch of forums for spouses of LEOs, etc.

Good luck,
SecretNY

[Bravo8]

My wife belongs to:

http://groups.yahoo.com/group/policewives

She joined a number of groups, but only remained a member of this one. She says it is the best one out there.....check it out.

[GangBuster]

Kristin, this is not a site or forum, but have you seen the book entitled "I Love a Cop", written by Ellen Kirschman, Ph.D. and available at Calibre Press?

[K9 Police]

Thanks guys!!! I am looking into being "authorized" to join the policewives forum. Thanks a lot! I do have the book, which I am halfway done. It definetly has a lot of good information. It is an awesome book that I recomment to anybody who loves a cop.

By the way, do you guys think dating other cops works better?
Just wondering

Kristin

[996s]

Only if you are bored at work. ;) I have seen it go both ways, I try to stay away from it. I see some people happy, some people end up hating the other and have to work together, can be wierd.
Mike

[BasementAddix]

of 4+ years has a problem with me becoming a cop....i only try and tell her th positive...and it seems to be working a lil....but its a pain i the ass...

[tcsd1236]

My wife belongs to:

http://boards2.ivillage.com/messages/get/rlcopwives85.html

[gaboy]

Basementaddict

Alot of people may disagree with me but I don't really talk about work with my wife. What may be funny or exiciting to you may keep her up all night worrying.

Its hard to come home after you just had to fight a robbery suspect and not tell your wife about it, but for me it works. I also try not to talk using signals or codes when we're around other officers.

Some people may have wifes that can deal with it, I don't, so I deal with it. Not a big deal for me. Hope this helps

[jaybird]

I'm not married yet but my mom worries to death, as well as the rest of my family about me being a cop and what I do.

Just like gaboy said, sometimes running home and telling your loved ones about the Chase or Fight or getting pepper sprayed or nearly shooting somone is not the thing to do. It may be fun to us and it may be what we live for everyday, but for people who don't understand why we risk all we risk to do this job, they will just worry more.

So mainly, I never tell me mom about what is going on. She asks if we are "busy" and sometimes I'll say we answered lots of calls, but I won't tell her about the DV where the guy nearly fought us or whatever or the traffic stop that I had to draw down on the passengers for some reason.

I'll be interested in seeing what it will be like to date or marry someone while I'm being a cop.

[jaybird]

You know, I just made a mistake. I said, "while I'm being a cop."

You don't just be a cop. You live the life of a cop.

Its not like some suit that you can take off and on. You're always a cop, even though when you go home, you take that hat off for a little while, you're still a cop.